On Blogging

29 Apr

Blogging has been an unexpected journey for me. It started as an extension to the journals I began at age 12 that lasted until about 23, filling five books:

 

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The quote on the cover that says, “Life itself is the most wonderful fairytale” is ironic, really, because from page one the reader can sense the true awkwardness of a chubby, shy, hopeful romantic (even at age 12) who experiences the absolute opposite of anything resembling a fairytale.

The topics within the second half of that top journal alone talk about my friends and I at 15-years-old facing being dumped, eating disorders, rape, my dream date for a dance who broke me into pieces by choosing to go with a girl he said was prettier, drinking, a stomach being pumped, a stabbing, depression and death.

My romantic awkwardness and my tendency to over-think everything continues throughout the five journals and despite every moment that would make most readers cringe as I embarrass myself on the regular, the entire thing is woven together with a sense of “gratefulness, hope and humor” that I had and continue to carry with me as I go.

I stopped writing things down for a few years and when I picked it up again, I chose to blog and decided that no matter what depressing thing happened in the world or in my personal experience, I was going to write for myself and shed a humorous light on life. I was tired of reading and watching awful things, you know? I didn’t expect, or necessarily even want others to read it. I’m grateful that people do read and comment, but I still don’t expect it. I simply wanted to creatively journal for myself and had no idea there was going to be a community aspect.

My stats, number of followers and being Freshly Pressed meant and still mean very little to me.

With that said, I was delighted to meet people, be real and learn that I can make others laugh. I think the community has introduced us all to others who inspire us and/or have somehow changed our lives. Writers can easily connect with each other here–we all know about an artist’s deeper layers that exist within each one of us. It gives us an immediate connection and for some, a way to throw around ideas. Through this I’ve also met some friends I’d like to keep for a lifetime, had conversations with people from all over the world and even had a very odd fan fiction story written about me. I wonder whatever happened to that guy.

Perhaps the real bonus for this little lady has been the dick pictures from past commenters, even though I continually announced that I would laugh at every penis entering my inbox (and I did… that pun was not intended, by the way).

Little did those dudes know about the coffee table book I’ll publish someday called, “Is This Your Dick?” that will highlight all the ding dongs.

So, that’s what makes my blogging experience go ’round.

Why do you blog?

66 Responses to “On Blogging”

  1. Le Clown April 29, 2013 at 1:52 pm #

    La La,
    You know I love this post. I blog ’cause I need to. That is the concise version of my answer.
    Le Clown

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 1:58 pm #

      Exactly. Otherwise we’d be insane people. Well, more so, I mean.

      • Le Clown April 29, 2013 at 1:59 pm #

        La La,
        Sanity is all a question of perspective, wouldn’t you say?
        Le Clown

        • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:13 pm #

          It is and from my perspective, “they’re” the crazy ones.

  2. Carrie Rubin April 29, 2013 at 1:57 pm #

    I think most of us start a blog for a very specific reason and then discover the experience is much more than we expected, and at times, our reasons for blogging may even shift.

    As for the coffee table book, I say run with it. Shouldn’t be too hard to come up with a cover photo…

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:01 pm #

      Yes, and I am glad I found your ever shifting blog out there one day. I have enjoyed getting to know you.

      Also, I just decided that the cover is going to be a cheesy picture of me juggling dick pics because how could I choose just one? Thanks for inspiring that!

    • unfetteredbs April 29, 2013 at 2:03 pm #

      Much much more than I ever expected

  3. Katie April 29, 2013 at 2:08 pm #

    Well, to be honest, I started blogging a few months after I graduated college. Since I was writing papers weekly anymore, I missed it. It’s really helped me get over my shyness of people reading my writing, and it’s made me a better writer, too. The great blogs and bloggers I’ve found is another added bonus.

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:16 pm #

      Development is a great way to use this! Glad to hear you got over that shyness bump (I can relate).

  4. Viciously Sweet April 29, 2013 at 2:13 pm #

    Such a great post. I love that you share so much, and make me laugh when I’m thousands of miles away from you… and have never met you in person. Through your writing I feel like I get to know the you that you would like to share even if it’s a bit awkward (aren’t we all awkward anyways?)

    And I blog because I like I’m a storyteller like you, and since I have been writing and drawing I feel so much better about my crazy life :)

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:19 pm #

      Thank you. You know, I have always felt like we have a connection… besides being named Lauren, of course. I agree, we are all a bit awkward, and it’s great to have a place to express it. I don’t know how so many people can hide! Also, lady, I love your drawings, thank you so much for sharing them.

  5. twindaddy April 29, 2013 at 2:19 pm #

    It started out as a project to self-host a website. Then it turned into, “Hey! I like writing.” Now it’s, “I like writing, but the people I interact with kick ass and I like talking to them.” I love the WP community. The people here are absolutely awesome..

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:22 pm #

      Yay! This makes me happy. Glad you’re here and that you continue to write as I always enjoy your prompts and what you have to say.

      • twindaddy April 29, 2013 at 2:29 pm #

        I’m glad you’re here, too! I’m glad to have you as a friend! You’ve helped me through some tough times and I appreciate that more than you know.

        • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:31 pm #

          Aww, and same here, dude! I’d say we make for a good support team. Imaginary hugs and stuff.

          • twindaddy April 29, 2013 at 2:32 pm #

            Awww! Sniff, sniff. Now it’s all sappy and emotional in here.

  6. merbear74 April 29, 2013 at 2:31 pm #

    I blog for my sanity, and to hopefully make people laugh now and then

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

      My kinswoman. It’s nice to get it out there, right? It’s better than the stirring brain, in my opinion.

      • merbear74 April 29, 2013 at 3:17 pm #

        I think that is the reason I went oingo boingo to begin with.

  7. calahan April 29, 2013 at 2:47 pm #

    Honestly, I started blogging because my wife wanted me to. Writing is pretty solitary, so this was a way to gauge reaction and hone my voice a bit. It was an experiment, really. Musicians, actors, artists with a gallery, they can all gauge public reaction first-hand, but writing is still kind of a lonely thing, but blogging allows it to be less one-sided.

    Like you, I am still amazed at some of the cool people I’ve met through doing this. And yes, La La, you are definitely one of those people.

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 3:24 pm #

      She sounds like a smart lady. You have a very unique voice and I love your writing–it seems like that process is a great way to utilize this entire experience.

      I always imagine you being like this talented, confident guys in an English class I took in college who read my work and gave great feedback, probably because of the response you gave when I asked for criticism one day. Thanks for that and for being awesome.

      As for the people we’ve met, added bonus!

      • calahan April 29, 2013 at 5:40 pm #

        I hope you would have let me cheat off your paper in English class, though.

  8. Bob April 29, 2013 at 2:49 pm #

    AWWW, you’re such a softy. But I for one Love the way you express yourself. Keep being the best La La you can be, we all love you for it! HUGGS! B-)

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 3:18 pm #

      A softy! Fine, you’re on to me. As always, thank you for stopping by and giving support.

  9. Anonymous April 29, 2013 at 3:00 pm #

    ok, so I’m a lil confused.. is that a NO on the dick pic’s?

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 3:13 pm #

      Well listen, feel free to send a dick pic if you want to be in a coffee table book that features dick pics. Anything larger than a 8.5 inches need not apply.

  10. Anonymous April 29, 2013 at 3:10 pm #

    I blog in the hopes that I will one day get sent a dick pic. It hasn’t happened yet. Where the dicks at yo?!!! Apparently all in your inbox.

    JUST KIDDING.

    I blog because it keeps me in a creative mindset, it helps me practice my writing, and the comments between me and my readers never fails to make me laugh. Also, I get to be friends with you which is obviously the number one reason.

    • becca April 29, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

      Umm that was my comment. Me. Becca. Not anonymous. Stupid WordPress.

      • La La April 29, 2013 at 3:16 pm #

        I am pleased that you practice and stay creative.

        “Where the dicks at yo?!!!” is the funniest thing I have read all day. Also…if you spend some time on the sexy blogs, something would surely pop up.

        • JWo April 29, 2013 at 3:38 pm #

          You know Becca’s got plenty of pics of dicks, specially with her being around Nawlins. While they aren’t pulled out as much as boobs, I’m sure there’s plenty flopping around. ;)

          She’s just trying to beat you to the punch on put out her own coffee book, which would be titled, “Where the dicks at yo?!!!”

          • La La April 29, 2013 at 3:39 pm #

            And it’s such a genius title! Blast!

  11. JWo April 29, 2013 at 3:32 pm #

    Hey La La… I am very glad that you started sharing your writing with us, to have “met” you and helped you through some rough patches.

    While I’ve sent you pictures, unfortunately none of them will make it into the coffee book. I guess I’m OK with that. ;)

    I used to write only when I was sad, angry, depressed, etc., so writing had taken on a bad connotation for me. It wasn’t until I read the Bloggess’ post about “Beyoncé” that I told myself I wanted to start writing for fun again.

    So I started my blog up and have been writing for fun ever since…

    • La La April 29, 2013 at 3:38 pm #

      A post about Beyonce, huh? Whatever gets you going! You’re very personable on your blog and I’ve appreciated that, my favorite post being when you and Tammy went to that concert and the man purse situation haha. Thanks for being a friend!

  12. Monk Monkey April 29, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

    I do it to please my many millions of fans. This can be a drag but that’s life.

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:42 pm #

      Well you have to please the people, Monk Monkey!

  13. jayne April 29, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

    I think one of the first posts of yours I read was you talking about wearing a Wookie Costume for Halloween… You had me at “arrow aahhhww” thats the noise he makes.

    I started to keep a diary no one could pick up and read… divorcing, lusting, and just trying to organize the thousands of thoughts circling in my head. I’m glad I found you. You do seem sane, and I like sane. xo, Jayne

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:45 pm #

      Jayne, that was definitely me, hahaha, and I saner than most…I’d like to think. ;-) The diaries help us to keep the thoughts somewhere, even if it’s just silly things.

      • jayne April 30, 2013 at 12:52 pm #

        by silly, you mean deeply profound intellectual planes of advancement within the confines of our genius minds, than yes – silly musings and all! xo, Jayne

        • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

          Haha yes, I prefer your version!

  14. Maddie Cochere April 29, 2013 at 7:20 pm #

    I like your blog, La La, because I never know what I’m going to get here. Something to make me laugh, make me think, or even make me cry. And I’m ready to read the book you will someday publish.

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:46 pm #

      Thank you. Ah yes, the book…which is slow rolling unfortunately…

  15. The Waiting April 29, 2013 at 7:54 pm #

    Your sense of humor is so defined and nuanced, Lala. I’m glad you blog because your words are like a breath of fresh air. You are really not like anyone else.

    I blog because it helps me remain an adult after I’ve been baby-talking all day. It helps me gauge who I am. The community is wonderful, and I feel like I’ve met some very good friends through this experience too. I’ve learned that the problems I face are easily surmountable once I pin them down with words.

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:48 pm #

      Thanks, lady!

      I like this idea that a few people brought up about “gauging who I am” and “finding my voice.” It’s a fine therapy for that, and I can only assume for motherhood even more so.

  16. The Bumble Files April 29, 2013 at 8:24 pm #

    La La, I so enjoy your blog and your sense of humor. It’s always fresh with an honest voice. We could all be reading magazines, but blogging for me has been a way to connect. I love all the people I’ve met here. They keep me coming back to read and to write. I thought I would just be writing, I didn’t realize a larger part of all this is the community that you connect with.

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:50 pm #

      Aww, thanks Boob Files! I am glad to be a part of a community and getting to know someone like you. ;-)

  17. Lori D April 29, 2013 at 8:51 pm #

    Sounds like you can tell some pretty attention getting stories, with an inspirational slant due to your underlying optimism. I wrote a journal since the same age, but slacked off once I got to my thirties. I still write in one a couple of times a month. Why do I blog? Well, I started out doing it because I was told I needed to for promoting my writing. I didn’t think I could ever figure out how to create one. Like you, I never knew what a wonderful community I’d find online, and how much I’d enjoy it.

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:51 pm #

      That’s awesome! The thoughts stirring in a libra’s head need to get out there, right? I will have to remember to use it a lot of promoting. The community is simply the bonus.

  18. isawbobdylaninaspeedo April 30, 2013 at 12:50 am #

    This was wonderful. I love your journals!!! awe!!! And to answer your question…I blog because there is no way that I cannot. I have diaries from age 7 to this morning. : )

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:52 pm #

      That’s so great that you kept up with it. Do you ever go back and read through them?

      • isawbobdylaninaspeedo April 30, 2013 at 2:05 pm #

        Totally! I also participate in this thing called Teenage Angst – google it -cuz they have one in every city – where you read your teenaged journals at a bar…its very cathartic to say the least…yer poor little teenaged vulnerable self on display.

  19. Andrew April 30, 2013 at 9:53 am #

    Great as always. But do you really get sent dick pictures? I didn’t see that coming. Oh and I blog because I always thought there was a huge section of dragon fans who weren’t getting blogs written for them.

    • La La April 30, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

      And we dragon (and wolf shirt) fans are truly grateful that you finally decided to get out on the interwebs. I do get dick pictures, and I also never see them coming….(I’ll see myself out).

  20. rheath40 April 30, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    I find you to be much more than just a funny girl. You are a woman that is passionate and deep. Your words make me laugh and cry. Are very real. I’m glad you write and I’m glad I found you. You are of my heart.

    I blog because a friend told me that I wrote well and I should share my stories. At first, it was journal entries and sharing my weight loss experience. As I continued to post, a dam burst within my heart and I realized I was born for this. I finally had something that was mine. I want to write a book. I will…. The blog, I’m not sure how long I’ll continue it though.

    I love you La La. Keep writing your journal and know, no one’s life is a fairy tale. They are merely random days with some spectacular sparkly stuff thrown in.

  21. Kourtney Heintz April 30, 2013 at 4:26 pm #

    Beautifully said La La. I blogged to share my experiences and my take on things with people. To document my journey. And discovering you and your blog was a total bonus. I’m so glad I’ve gotten to hear about your life. I love your honesty and humor even in the face of painful things. :)

  22. Madame Weebles April 30, 2013 at 5:08 pm #

    I started blogging just because I wanted to get back into the habit of writing regularly. But now I find that I can’t NOT blog. There are too many funny, kind, brilliant and interesting blogs and bloggers out there, and I’d miss them all too much if I stopped.

  23. Madame Weebles April 30, 2013 at 5:09 pm #

    Also, when you publish, “Is This Your Dick?”, can you please make it a pop-up book?

  24. Jen and Tonic April 30, 2013 at 10:00 pm #

    Our blogging perspective is exactly the same, and our journey here is nearly identical as well. I have come and gone from writing since I was very young. I think it takes a certain maturity and understanding of one’s self to write in the way you do. You talk about yourself, and laugh at life’s foibles. You couldn’t do that if you weren’t self-aware and self-assured. I’ve always said that writing a blog is maturity that the whole world can read.

    I also don’t care about stats and followers and all that stuff. It’s cool to receive accoldades and fanfare, but it’s the “HEY! You too?!” that I appreciate the most, and that only takes one other person.

  25. pivoine68 May 1, 2013 at 2:04 am #

    I’m only in it for the dick pictures as well! ;)

    Bises,
    Dawn

    • La La May 2, 2013 at 10:37 am #

      Haha, I knew it!

  26. R. Hans Miller May 3, 2013 at 12:28 pm #

    I blog to keep myself focused on my goal of getting published and to share my thoughts on writing techniques as I ponder them.

    Also, because it lets me network with people who write things I enjoy.

  27. kenthinksaloud May 5, 2013 at 1:57 pm #

    The nosey bugger in me wants to read your diaries! Thankfully the perverse part of me is on holiday and you will be saved from getting any dick photos from me. You’d have to squint to see it anyway ;)

    I think your reasons for blogging are admirable and lovely all at the same time! Rather like you in fact Miss La La :) x

  28. moodsnmoments May 20, 2013 at 12:52 pm #

    well I started blogging ’cause I knew no other way and needed too. loved your post. It is true you do make people chuckle and feel good about spending time on your page.

  29. Henry Chamberlain June 29, 2013 at 8:58 pm #

    That’s a nice post and I appreciate your consistency. Why do I blog? That’s a very good question. I enjoy it. That’s got to be part of anyone’s answer or why do it, right? I think a lot of people have agendas or are caught up in the hopes of fame and wealth resulting from blogging. They have a book to sell. They hope it will lead to something else. And those are legitimate goals–but they can’t overshadow one’s creativity. Otherwise, it’s hack work. Or maybe someone just wants to reach out…know that someone else is reading what they post. As a writer and artist, for me, part of the motivation for creating any work, including blogging, is to relate to an audience. And, yes, I do have other goals tied in with blogging. That’s just the way it is. And, if you gain a certain level of success from blogging, it’s definitely not something to dismiss. Well, maybe for modesty’s sake or to make others feel better. Ultimately, it all comes back to enjoying the act of blogging. In that sense, the audience can recede into the background. It’s a human endeavor–so humans are always going to be part of the mix…that’s the best way to look at this whole crazy thing.

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