Be yourself. Love yourself. Dance like there’s nobody watching. Be a first rate version of yourself and not second rate version of someone else. It’s better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.
You know these sayings and others like it. Are we actually living by them? Are you being yourself? If not, are you happy?
I lived by a different motto for a long time: “Be yourself….but be like everyone else. Pretend and lie. Hide.” Where did that get me? For starters, I spent most of my life as a shy, sad little girl who thought she was ugly and uncool. I still don’t fucking know what it means to be “beautiful” or “cool,” and I am perfectly okay with that fact. Why? Because I am grateful and I am myself and I have never been happier.
The most raw, refreshing, beautiful feelings I have ever had came when I decided to experience life as myself. Then I loved myself, and once I loved myself, that’s when other things, good things, started to fall into place. It isn’t always easy, but I’m telling you, you’re going to love it.
I don’t want to see anyone miss out.
So, who am I? My name is Lauren. I love to laugh. I like dorky stuff. I’m a romantic. I speak in a British accent in my head. I dance a lot. I don’t lie. I want 5 cheeseburgers and 100 oreos in my belly right now. I think my eyes are pretty. I’m playful. I believe true love is really real. I love sex. And witty banter. I like being held. I think I would be a great mother. I’m indecisive. My favorite color is green. Or maybe pink. I don’t watch the news. I’m impatient and sensitive. I don’t like being alone. I write poetry. My heart goes into everything I do. I still pretend I’m a mermaid when I go swimming. I had 3 orgasms yesterday. I do actually like long walks on the beach
and I want to know, who are you and are you being your unique self?
I’m half sick of shadows. We owe it to ourselves to live.
tales of a charm city chick 
Sounds like you do know what it means to be beautiful. Beauty comes from the inside as well.
Never change.
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This means a lot to me, Chris. Thanks.
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I, for one, adore this Lauren. She is honest and witty and fun. I’m finally starting to be my unique self. It took me a while to get there, but it was worth the wait. 🙂
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This I am very happy to hear!!! It’s a great thing. 🙂
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Be yourself. Iam always mystified by that sentiment. It implies you know yourself. Do you?
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More than ever. We are always learning, certainly, but I know myself more than ever.
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I’m about a thousand years older than you and I am not too sure I’ve reached this kind of self-acceptance. Congratulation Lauren! You are beautiful.
Bisous,
Dawn
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Thank you, Dawn. ♥
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Post full of wrung heart and soul?
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Does that not compute?
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I love so much of this I don’t know where to begin. I think truth is beauty and beauty is truth. It’s dirty and messy and oh so wonderful. True loves rocks and and orgasms do too! Beautiful woman, beautiful words…. thank you.
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Truth is beauty. You’re wonderful and I love your poetry, so no, thank you. 🙂
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Well said and don’t forget you do great porn reviews!
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Sing it sister!! You are such an inspiration. I love you as much as I can love a semi stranger in our situation. (:
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…which is a lot because that’s how much I love you, my semi stranger sister friend.
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Great post! The only thing I have to add is that if you are going to be your authentic self also better develop a thick skin.
People say they want individuality, but whenever anyone expresses any they are immediately stamped down. LOL
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Thanks for this La La. It made me teary eyed. I relate. I did that whole acting like others I thought had it going on, up ’til eighteen or so. It takes guts to be who you are. xoxo
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I appreciate this. You learned early!
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The process of becoming truely ourselves is the most important – and sometimes the most challenging 🙂 Thank you for this beautiful post.
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Thank you for commenting. Love and light!
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Your post reminding me of the energy from Pixies’ song “La La Love You”; confident hell yeah sweet. High-fives to you Lauren
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I La La love that song. 😉
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Well now I want cheeseburgers and three orgasms 🙂 You are effin fantastic! This made me smile today.
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I’m glad. Enjoy all of those things!
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yay you – that’s very good to hear
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That truly means the world to me. You know where I’ve been. Thanks.
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People say beauty comes from the inside, but have you ever seen autopsy photos? Yuck!
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hahahaha
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Go you 🙂
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Thanks diirrty-diirrty 😉
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Gosh, it’s strange how we see ourselves as opposed to how others see us. I used to think I was ugly too, and I always thought, from your photos (on blog) that you are very pretty. You could’ve been describing me in describing yourself, except I’m more old-school. But, I’m also older than you. I don’t dance a lot, but used to when I was younger, and think your blog has inspired me to again. 🙂 And pink is definitely not my fave color, but I do love green (purple is my fave). I absolutely love to laugh. If I don’t laugh by the end of the day, I will put on one of my favorite comedy shows (DVD or DVR) to make me laugh before I go to sleep. In fact, I just went to a comedy show recently and posted about it on my blog, in case you’re interested. Thanks for sharing about you, and reminding others to be true to themselves.
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Lori, I love Frank! So funny. Laughter is the greatest. Thank you for sharing about you, too. It really is funny how different we see ourselves. I think having a blog helped me notice that. I hope you really do dance more often, and I think I will start to DVR some comedies on days when I don’t laugh! Good idea. xoxo
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I will pick up on the point above = the requirement to know yourself. I have *almost* been there, but still think there’s still so much I need to learn about that person…
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I think there always will be, for all of us, and I think accepting that fact is part of it, too. Thanks for stopping by 🙂 I love your writing.
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And same goes for you 😉
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This is wonderful! I’m still working on self-acceptance. Maybe I’ll print this post out for reference, and to remind me to stop trying to be/please other people.
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You are definitely cool and beautiful person in my book. Plus, I only had two orgasms yesterday so… you win!
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Hahaha! Thank you 🙂
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This is evocative in a very subtle way (don’t know if that even makes sense). I was really touched by it. In today’s times where we’re constantly wearing garbs to project a confident, perfect image to everyone around us that it’s so easy to lose track of who we are. I think we need to keep reminding ourselves to shake ourselves off it once in a while.
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You know what? I know what you mean. Thank you, what a sweet comment, it made my day ♥
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aww thank you! I am glad it did 🙂
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Green is my favorite color or pink or pinkandgreen. I had no orgasms yesterday…dang. Great post girlie!
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I love sex, too which is why the no orgasms yesterday is such a let down.
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Oh yeah I achieved that on my own….
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Well I could do that too! Maybe I will! That’ll show ’em. Somebody!
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